The World Health Organization, the US Department of Health and Human Services, and even Billie Eilish are urging us to practice “social distancing” to prevent the spread of COVID19, otherwise known as the Wuhan Coronavirus.
Well, it’s really hard to practice social distancing without it impacting your love life.
Am I suggesting you ignore the advice of medical professionals? Absolutely not. But dating life is undoubtedly impacted.
You swipe right, you match, you talk through the app, then via text, and now you want to meet. But with stay-at-home orders mandated around the country closing down your favorite restaurants and bars, it's time to get creative while keeping your distance.
Let me share with you tips and strategies you can employ to make sure you still keep some fire going in your life and keep their attention while maintaining a safe distance.
Technology can be your wingman
We live in the modern age of dating. While many debate about whether technology has helped or harmed modern dating, certainly in times like these, technology can come to our aid.
Netflix and chill Facetime
Well, the dinner-and-a-movie idea is out. But there may be a next best thing: Bitesquad and Netflix. Order each other food, and gear up your favorite flick. Why not spend the time watching a Netflix movie together, and connect through over a video chat while you do it? You can still share the laughs, or comfort each other after a scary moment when the killer jumps out! Plus you are still connected and making memories. It’s a traditional date, just different.
Listen to music together
Let the person you're dating listen to what moves you and get a peek into who you are. Listen to your favorite music together using the RADIO.COM app. Choose from your favorite radio stations around the country, custom genre stations, or live performances from your favorite bands through RADIO.COM LIVE: And The Beat Goes On. Not only is streaming music a modern-day version of listening to your favorite records together, it's also is a great distraction during the COVID19 panic and anxiety. Let your beau associate you with pleasure.
Share your guilty pleasures
You showed your sensitive side — now show them something embarrassing! It can be hard to get to know each other without getting to spend time together, and “getting to know you” conversations on the phone only go so far. Consider sending links back and forth to your guilty pleasures. What’s that YouTube clip that no one would guess you watch on repeat? What cheesy romcom does no one know you love? What meme makes you LOL everytime you see it? What reality show has got you hooked?
Redefine what it means to walk and talk
While you may not be able to walk hand-in-hand in the park, you can still walk together… just at a distance. It gets you outside, it gets you talking and feeling each other out, and it’s always fun to check ‘em out. Bring your cellphone and talk to each other while you walk so you don’t have to holler and keep saying “What?”. That’s annoying.
Sometimes, the old ways of doing things are best
Our ancestors were masters at making a good impression and building a romance at a distance. Let’s look into the history books and uncover some tried-and-true courting strategies.
The lost art of letter writing
Writing a letter was a big deal, especially back in the day when ink, paper, and postage were expensive. And great attention was paid to the words one used to both impress and seduce their mate. Writing a love letter takes more effort than sending a text, and has a much bigger impact. People keep love letters for years. So, brush up your skills, and visit your favorite thesaurus website, and write something that they would want to show their grandkids.
Show off the goods
For many years, showing up to a date with a gift was a physical symbol of romantic interest. Since you are probably quarantined in the house, consider making something from hand
The porch: the first dating spot
In the 19th century, it was considered common practice in America for a suitor to come to your house and talk to you from the porch. It was considered safer and more polite than meeting in public for the first time and was a formal way to show interest. Arrange your next date to be on the porch with one person inside, and the other outside. Leave a drink on the porch before they arrive, and build your bond the old-fashioned way.
We all need a little love to get through some dark days ahead. When you have someone you are interested in romantically, it’s even more important to work against what COVID-19 is trying to take away from our daily lives. Good luck in love, and remember to name your firstborn Dr. Love.
Dr. Kyle Zrenchik, known as “Dr. Love”, is a sex and relationship therapist at ALL IN Therapy Clinic in Minnetonka, MN. He joins Hey, It’s Cory Hepola Thursday's at 10:30 am on News Talk 830 WCCO. For more information go to allintherapyclinic.com.