While chatting with Drew Barrymore on her self-titled talk show, Gwyneth Paltrow spilled the goop on what it’s been like to “consciously uncouple” with ex Chris Martin, when said couple has kids.
Paltrow revealed to Drew that "in a way, the divorce and my relationship with Chris now is better than our marriage was.” Paltrow stressed that its about holding yourself and each other accountable, saying, “you have to know that every relationship is 50/50 no matter what you think, how you think you were wrong or how bad you perceive the other people’s actions.
She continued, “if you’re brave enough to take responsibility for your half and really look at your own garbage and your own trauma and how it’s presenting in the world and in your relationship, then there’s really somewhere to go and something to learn and something to heal. Also, you’re holding the other person in the sphere of humanity. We’re all part good and part bad. There’s no binary.”
For Gwyneth and Chris the ultimate goal was to minimize the trauma for their two children, Apple and Moses, to which Paltrow admitted that doing so is sometimes not so easy.
"Some days, you really don’t want to be with the person you’re getting divorced from, but if you’re committed to having a family dinner, then you do it," she shared. "You take a deep breath, and you look the person in the eye and remember your pact, and you smile and hug and you make a joke and you just recommit to this new relationship that you’re trying to foster.” Concluding her thought, “you’re ending a marriage, but you’re still in a family.”
Check out Gwyneth’s take on her own co-parenting experiences in the full interview above.