Mother of Four Whose Husband Died at 41 Shares Consoling Letter With Vanessa Bryant


The world still continues to grieve over the sudden deaths of Kobe Bryant, his daughter Gianna and 7 other passengers who were riding in a helicopter at the time of a fatal crash in Calabasas on Sunday morning.

But one mother specifically wanted to offer her support to Vanessa Bryant.

Andrea Remke, a widowed mother of four in Kentucky, wrote a letter to Vanessa, the mother of Gianna and the couple's three surviving daughters, reports Good Morning America.

Remke's husband Matthew died of cancer two years ago at the age of 41, the same age that Kobe Bryant was when he passed away earlier this week.

The mother from Kentucky became a single mother to a son the same age as Gianna, two 10-year-old twins and a 7-year-old daughter.

Remke's daughter urged her mother to write a letter to Vanessa Bryant and let her know that she and her daughters will be okay.

"She was like, 'Mom, you have to tell her. You have to tell her she’ll be okay,'" Remke told GMA. "It was a little bit of her naive innocence thinking that all widows know each other, but she sees there are days when we’ll laugh and are happy but that doesn’t mean that we’re over grief."

"Back when it happened you just felt like life was over and you didn’t want to go on, but now there are good days and bad days," she continued. "I tell my kids that it doesn’t mean we’re forgetting daddy but just we're just keeping on and trying to live well and love."

Remke has used writing as a way to cope her husband's death. On her professional page, Remke posted the letter on Monday, the day after the tragic helicopter crash. The letter was then quickly shared.

The letter, addressed "To Kobe's widow," was reprinted by Good Morning America.

"I've thought about you all day," the emotional note began.

Remke said that she understood the despair that Vanessa Bryant must have felt the day after the crash.

"I remember the feeling of waking up that next day after — I had probably only slept an hour or so — hoping and praying it was all just a nightmare," Remke wrote.
"But like me, you probably opened your eyes to a reality that told you it wasn't. He was still gone. No amount of money, prestige, or power could change that."

While Remke told Bryant that she may feel "numb and deaf to every word" of consolation, she let her know that the late basketball's family was still in the thoughts of her and her children.

"I told them we were going to send special prayers for Kobe's family, and his widow especially."

On Thursday, Vanessa Bryant broke her silence on the tragic crash in an Instagram post.

"We are completely devastated by the sudden loss of my adoring husband, Kobe — the amazing father of our children; and my beautiful, sweet Gianna — a loving, thoughtful, and wonderful daughter, and amazing sister to Natalia, Bianka, and Capri," Bryant captioned the family portrait of herself, Kobe, and their four daughters.

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