Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

CATEGORY: Society & Culture
Listen to the incomparable therapist Esther Perel counsel real couples as they reveal the most intimate, personal, and complicated details of the conflicts that have brought them to her door. This season Esther speaks to a constellation of new relationships: A couple wrestling with the guilt they feel over the happiness their infidelity created. Another trying to make space for their queerness in an outwardly appearing hetero relationship. A set of friends trying to sort out if their childhood friendship needs to continue into adulthood. And Esther checks back in with couples from seasons past to see where they are now as she creates a space for us to hear our own lives and struggles articulated in the stories of others. So....where should we begin?
  1. June 30, 2022
    55 min
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    I've Had 100 Conversations With You In My Head, Part 2
    We first met them three seasons ago in the painful aftermath of an infidelity. She was diagnosed with an STD during a routine visit to her OBGYN, leading to the revelation that her husband had been visiting sex…
  2. June 23, 2022
    27 min
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    Esther Calling - I Need Her to See Me
    In this latest episode of Esther Calling, we meet a young woman looking for advice on how to stand up for herself in a fraught and traumatic relationship with her mother. She worries the trauma and violence she…
  3. June 16, 2022
    27 min
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    Esther Calling - Still Single at 40
    In this episode of Esther Calling, Esther meets a man who’s never been in a relationship for more than five months. As he approaches age 40, he knows the reason lies with him, and not the women he’s dating. Est…
  4. June 09, 2022
    56 min
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    We Started As An Affair
    Esther says in this session, “a love story is between two people, a marriage engages an entire community of people.“ Here we see how that plays out when the relationship in question is the result of an affair;…
  5. June 02, 2022
    25 min
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    Esther Calling - Stuck In the Middle
    He prides himself on being an empathic confidante to his friends…but is it to a fault? In this episode of Esther Calling, we meet a man fed up with being the container for his friends’ relationship woes. But, h…
  6. May 26, 2022
    31 min
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    Esther Calling - I Deserve to Be a Mother
    She longs for a child, but her partner isn’t there yet, and as a trans woman she already faces other barriers to parenthood. She worries she’s letting her partner’s indecision dictate her own future happiness.…
  7. May 19, 2022
    58 min
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    You Want Me to Watch the Kids While You Go Out With Other Men?, Where Are They Now
    When Esther first met with them two years ago, they’d recently opened up the marriage. At the time only she had ventured out, and after a lifetime of feeling her sexuality wasn’t her own, she felt an awakening.…
  8. May 12, 2022
    18 min
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    Esther Calling - Having Needs Doesn't Make You Needy
    He’s in a new relationship and wants it to be exclusive, but he can’t get a read on his partner's feelings. It’s hard for him to have an open honest conversation about his needs without feeling weak, especially…
  9. May 05, 2022
    57 min
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    My Orgasm Is Not Just For Me
    What starts as a story of sexual incompatibility and a difference in life goals for these two women takes a wildly unexpected turn during this session. Esther finds herself witness to a fantasy ritual unlike an…
  10. April 28, 2022
    56 min
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    Twice Married, To Each Other
    They were married, divorced, and then married again. And with four kids between them, tensions run high. They fight about everything: the chores, the cats, who gets to tell who what to do. They come into the se…
  11. January 20, 2022
    17 min
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    Esther Calling - Will He Make The Space For Me
    Her new boyfriend’s wife died four years ago. Reminders of her are all over his house, from her clothes in the closet to her photos on the wall. It makes the caller feel uncomfortable and inadequate. She wonder…
  12. January 13, 2022
    19 min
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    Esther Calling - It's a Matter of Pride
    In another episode of Esther Calling, he worries his desire for a serious relationship is putting women off. But early in their phone call, it becomes clear to Esther that he’s talking about a particular woman…
  13. December 30, 2021
    58 min
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    I Can Be Strong and Be Taken Care Of
    As Esther says, love is at once an affirmation and a transcendence of who we are. But when one partner grows up as the child taking care of his mother is it any surprise that he experiences the romantic needs o…
  14. December 23, 2021
    1 hr 6 min
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    I Don't Mean to Be Mean, But...
    She has no boundaries, he’s walled off. And their opposing communication styles cause immediate tension in this explosive session. So much so, that Esther finds herself adding to the chorus of angry voices. The…
  15. December 16, 2021
    17 min
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    An Intimate Evening with Esther Perel
    You are invited to an intimate evening with Esther Perel. In place of this week's session we gather for a few rounds of Where Should We Begin, A Game of Stories. Over the last year to curtail the loneliness and…
  16. December 09, 2021
    57 min
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    Before We Got Together I Identified As Gay
    Before they got together, he identified as straight and they identified as gay. What does it mean to make space for their queer identity while they date a straight man? And is that possible as they move into a…
  17. December 02, 2021
    53 min
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    Where Are They Now - A Romantic Revival
    For the first time on the podcast, Esther invites a couple back to her office for a second session. 10 years ago, his first wife took her own life. A year later he met his current wife and she became an overnig…
  18. November 25, 2021
    59 min
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    Friendship - My Reliable Gift
    In a Where Should We Begin first, Esther sits down with two friends. They’ve been close for so long they feel like brothers, with all of the baggage that comes with family but none of the certainty. There are t…
  19. November 18, 2021
    19 min
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    Esther Calling - Losing My Best Friend
    In this second episode of Esther Calling, we meet a woman who feels she is losing her best friend. The caller feels that her friend is rushing into a marriage to someone she doesn’t approve of. During the call…
  20. November 11, 2021
    19 min
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    Esther Calling - My Partner's Privilege
    This time there is no couch, but instead an unexpected phone call from Esther to a woman who is struggling with the differences between her and her partner's upbringing. He grew up in a comfortable suburb, she…

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