Are you going through "The Change?"
No, I'm not talking to 45-55 year old women...
Are YOU changing? My two boys above change minute to minute.
We all change on a daily basis...little by little...Whether we like it or not...and whether we know it or not..
Allow others to change, too.
I often look back at my 20 year old self, my 30 year old self, and my 40 year old self. Change obviously comes with maturity, but sometimes it's because you are finally looking inward and realize that you need to be a bit more intentional with it all..
As we progress through life, we are constantly doing other things. We are finding jobs, we are starting families, we are..
Busy.
Sometimes we don't even see the change in ourselves or other people, until we realize we have grown apart from someone..
Then, the path of least resistance is to criticize them for being different from when we first knew them. Putting the blame on them for our unhappiness..
Look deep at the relationships in your life. Can you do without some of them? A negative soul can kill you quicker than a disease.
Maybe you are borrowing emotions from other people.. Are there people who are trying to convince you to feel a certain way about something or someone?
How do YOU feel? Stop listening to others about YOUR feelings.
And what about the other relationships? Are they worth saving?
Relationships are not meant to be exciting and full of butterflies all the time, yet that's what people seek...EVERY relationship is a source of growth, romantically or not.
Think about that super hard breakup...You learned something about yourself, didn't you?
Think about your super hard marriage...Choose therapy, and agree on collaboration with your spouse instead of competition..Did you grow? Was it worth it?
Nurture what matters...and forget the rest.
No one likes change. When the seasoned citizen in front of me at the Marcs has a change purse full of pennies, I wanna pull my hair out.
But change is constant...and necessary..and can be rewarding..and should be celebrated instead of critiqued.
Plus they have self-checkouts now.
All my best as you figure out life and the relationships in it.
XOXO Glenn



