How did you handle difficult family members during the happiest time of the year?
I can see it now.
You’re planning a holiday get-together and all of a sudden you get a call from Uncle Steve who wants to attend the festivities.
Uncle Steve has strong political views, he doesn’t get along with a majority of family members, and generally makes people uneasy.
Do you still invite him?
The answer is no.
When faced with a holiday or major family function, we feel it is best to invite everyone and deal with the consequences later.
We did the same in our family for our wedding. Inviting people because they are tied to us by name, yet feeling the awkwardness of the entire situation.
It’s OK to say no.
The holidays are meant for family bonding, and the drama is best left behind.
While working on relationships is key to the overall success for family, the holidays should be left out of the equation.
Meet one on one, send emails, but make sure your guests feel comfortable..
Steve will understand, and if he doesn’t, you have bigger fish to fry.
Agree to meet beforehand or after. Invite sisters, brothers or parents. But keep the holidays a neutral gathering where people celebrate each other.
Families are complicated. Keep conversations light and have great food.
Set a time limit and manage peoples expectations beforehand.
Never do things out of obligation, but always keep lines of communication open.
And most of all..Have fun!
All my best as you navigate life and the relationships in it!
XOXO Glenn