Life Consultant / Spiritual Leader/ Crisis & Grief Counseling/' Russell Tomlinson Photo credit The Turners, Russell Tomlinson
Recently on Let’s Talk About It with the Turners Reverend Russell Tomlinson shared the inspiring love story behind his marriage and offered insights into relationships, faith, and personal growth.
While his wife could not join the conversation due to a demanding schedule, Tomlinson, a seasoned pastor, provided a detailed account of how they met and built a strong marriage grounded in faith and mutual respect. He recounted their first meeting after years apart: “Finally, my middle daughter called, and she said, ‘Daddy, I know the Lord just showed me who your wife is going to be. I said, who is it going to be? It’s going to be Dr. Trim.’” That divine confirmation prompted a long-distance connection and eventually led to a first date in London, where the couple spent three days discussing their future.
The discussion also explored the challenges and strategies of blending two accomplished lives. Reverend Tomlinson emphasized that oneness in marriage does not require losing individuality. “Becoming one does not mean you lose your individuality,” he said. He explained that both he and Dr. Trim had well-established careers and ministries before their union, and maintaining their distinct identities has been key to their harmonious relationship.
Listeners were given practical advice for handling conflict within a marriage. Tomlinson shared that disagreements are natural, even for seasoned couples, and underscored the importance of “tone, tenor, and timing” when addressing issues. He emphasized that conflict can signal a healthy, real relationship, rather than one that is merely functional or superficial.
In addition to reflections on personal growth and marital dynamics, Tomlinson spoke to the importance of self-sufficiency in relationships. He encouraged singles to achieve personal satisfaction before seeking a partner, noting that the biblical story illustrates how readiness and wholeness attract the right match. “There are so many people trying to connect, trying to find people, and they’re not satisfied with themselves,” he said. “Personal satisfaction is the key to attracting a satisfied person. You don’t want to attract neediness.”
The interview concluded with a discussion of upcoming initiatives. Reverend Tomlinson announced a new program for men, Caleb’s Circle, designed to guide men in leadership, longevity, and faith-based personal growth. The program has already received endorsements from notable figures, including motivational speaker Les Brown.
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