When you know, you know. Love is a magical thing, and one of the biggest steps a couple in love can take is deciding to finally move in together.
For some, this step can occur a couple of months into the relationship (some a couple of years), but no matter how long the relationship, there are a few things couples need to consider before finally cohabitating.
First, you should consider when the right time to move in is.
Does the relationship feel secure and loving? Have you been having discussions about your long-term future with each other? Then it might be time to move in.
If you’re just keeping things casual, probably not a good idea.
Also, are you spending all of your time with this person anyway? Texting them constantly? Sex and relationship therapist Sarah Trance tells Elite Daily,“If your daily routine already reflects cohabitation, which often happens for folks prior to moving in, then it’s probably time to move in together.”
Now how about the wrong time to move in?
According to Trance, it’s when moving in together becomes an attempt to salvage a relationship.
She says, “Make sure you’re doing it because you want something more for the relationship, and not because you’re trying to put a band-aid on something.”
Moving in together will not solve your relationship troubles, and in fact most likely exacerbate them, so before taking such a major step, make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons.
Before any couple moves in together, sex and relationship therapist MoAndra Johnson recommends all couples have “an overall discussion of expectations.”
What are your expectations around household roles and management? How are you going to split bills and manage other finances? Things like that.
Also, have an honest discussion about your boundaries, where you need to be honest and upfront with yourself AND your partner about what it is that you will need and where you’re not willing to compromise.
And of course, issues will arise, but the key is to making sure to settle them early.
Relationship and wellbeing coach Shula Melamed says, “Sweeping things under the rug does nothing except guarantee a bigger fight down the line, so agree to discuss things when they come up as to avoid any resentment.”
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