How understanding love languages can help de-stress your Valentine's Day plans

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Knowing how your partner speaks their love language can increase effective communication. Photo credit Getty Images

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching, and that could be a good thing or a very anxiety-inducing thing, depending on the type of person you are. KMOX heard from Dr. Mike Mahon, host of the “Psych with Mike” podcast, about healthy relationships and how to have a happy Valentine’s Day.

Many opt for grand gestures of romance on Valentine’s Day — but Dr. Mahon says it’s important to know what your partner wants. He pointed to the popular book by Gary Chapman called “The Languages of Love.”

“His premise was not that you would know your love language, but that you know the love language of your partner, so that you can speak to your partner from their love language,” he explained. “Because if I'm speaking English, and you’re understanding Japanese, it doesn't matter how loud I scream ‘I love you,’ you don't hear it, because it's a different language.”

The love languages are acts of service, physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, and gifts.

“So if you are dating someone, or in a relationship with someone whose love language is acts of service, and you're always giving them gifts, and they say to you, ‘How come you never tell me that you love me?’ And you say to them, ‘I tell you all the time,’ well, you guys are having a misunderstanding,” Dr. Mahon said. “And so what you have to do is you have to figure out what is that partner's love language? And then talk to them in that language.”

Hear more from Dr. Mike Mahon on how to have a stress-free Valentine’s Day and how to understand your partner’s love language:

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