The whole Will Smith-Chris Rock situation from this past weekend goes deeper than simply standing up for someone.
My friend Brenda said it best....If Will would've just went up there, face to face with Chris, explain Alopecia to him and the entire world, it accomplishes the need to defend someone...It also educates, and there is no violence.
And still everyone has a take on if it was staged, why he was laughing before he did a 180, being a vessel of love and the hypocrisy of that statement, their supposed open relationship..blah blah blah.
My take? Relationships are complicated..
I don't know the person that has a simple relationship.
I don't know the person that has has it all figured out.
I don't know the person that doesn't...struggle.
Forget what you see on social..This is my Glenn talk since the Ted I know doesn't talk life lessons. No one has a perfect relationship...So what do we do?
We disguise the ugly with social pics of us smiling and pretending.
We disguise the ugly with vacations and spending money to make us feel good.
We disguise the ugly..with distractions.
I don't pretend to know Will and Jada. We met briefly and we talked for a bit and it was all good. I don't know them and neither do you.
As I navigate my own relationship, I know I have had my own issues. Most of them self-inflicted. Here is what I have learned:
1. Pay attention to your significant other. Talk to them. Don't just take your routine for granted and assume everything is OK.
2. Stop spending your alone time talking about everyone else and their problems.
3. If you are married and lucky enough to have kids, they are SECOND in importance. You can't be a good mom and dad if you're not a good husband or wife.
4. Violence is NEVER the answer. Will didn't act out of emotion because he was smart enough to know if he threw a punch, it would've been 10 times worse.
Is your neighbor cheating? That strange car in the driveway late at night? Who's not wearing their wedding ring?
Ignore it...You have bigger fish to fry...And not just during the Lenten season either.
If we put in the time we do gossiping about others into our own relationships, how much further ahead would we be?
All my best as you figure out life and the relationships in it
XOXO Glenn